Evaluating your relationships

Whether you’re in a relationship, thinking about dating; have you ever taken the time to literally evaluate your relationship?


Here’s a tool to help you start to think about what’s really going on. Sometimes young people know something feels wrong, but can’t quite explain what it is. The following questions should help.


You can use this tool to think about all of the relationships and friendships you have! You could even use it twice for the same relationship to compare the relationships progress over time. Things change, right? Share your thoughts with a friend, a family member or someone you trust.


Let’s get evaluating   🙂


In thinking about a partner or a friend…


  • Can you name 5 characteristics of this person that you really admire or like?


  • Is this person glad that you have other friends?


  • Does this person ask for your opinion about things? Do you make decisions together?


  • Have you ever felt pressured to have sex, or engage in any sexual activity with this person?


  • Does this person have good relationships with his or her friends and family?


  • Does this person talk and listen?


  • Do you consider this person a friend?


  • Do you act like yourself when you are with this person?


  • Does this person have other interests besides you?


  • Does this person expect you to say where you have been when you have been apart?


  • Does this person constantly text, call or check up on you when you’re not with them?


  • Does this person lose his or her temper easily?


  • Does this person get angry if you do not always pay attention to him or her?


  • How does this person handle conflict?



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What is your relationship reality?

Hey everyone! I’m posting a video I found that I like to use to get young people thinking about their “relationship reality”. I always encourage teens to think about all of the relationships in their life when they’re considering what is healthy and unhealthy – friends, family, boyfriends or girlfriends.

What’s important to YOU?

Take a peek!


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“Stay Alert, Stay Safe”

How many of you think of how safe you are on the internet? How many people in your life are reminding you of the dangers “lurking” on the internet? Internet safety is a pretty big topic these days, especially for teens who are accessing a variety of social media sites.

I’m a big fan of the internet. I think there are some pretty cool things you can do online. I think it’s a tool that makes our world more accessible. But think about that word. Accessible. Access. What is accessible online? Pictures? Information?

What to you share online and on social media? Your pictures? Your address? Your phone number? Do you have your location services turned on when you update your facebook status? Do you adjust your privacy settings?

Here’s a fun fact… if you have 500 friends on Facebook and your privacy settings let “friends of friends” view your page.. assuming each of those friends has 500 friends over 250,000 people can access your page!

When I was a kid staying safe was more geared towards “stranger danger” and being home alone. Anyone who grew up in the 90’s will remember Bert and Gert, the rabbit duo delivering public service announcemnts to kids about how to keep themselves safe. Check it out..

Their catchy jingles, futuristic hoverboards and satelite watches were pretty neat, I have to say.  But so corney! Your parents or older siblings might remember those commericals.. Ask them! Those commercials are long gone, and it makes me think about the ways we talk about safety these days in a complex wired world.

So since this is a public blog, I wanted to remind everyone to think about their online presence and how people have access to them online!



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